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| "Be happy with big smile, prohibit flooding"-Jabir Johnson |
They find it
hard to organize their thinking and they tall back on primitive reactions.
They just
want things to stop, or want to run or sometimes to strike back.
Some people have
high thresholds for flooding easily enduring
anger and contempt. While others
may be triggered the moment their spouse makes a mild criticism.
The problem
for a marriage begins when one or another spouse feels flooded almost
continually.
Then the
partner feels overwhelmed by the other partner, is always on guard for an
emotional assault or injustice, becomes hypervigilant for any sign of attack,
insult or grievance and is sure to overreact to even the least sign.
Even after
35 or more years of marriage, there is basic distinction between husbands and
wives in how they regard emotional encounters.
Women, on
average do not mind plunging into unpleasantness of marital squabble nearly so
much as do men in their lives.
Husbands are
prone to flooding at lower intensity of negativity than are their wives.
More men
than women react to their spouse’s criticism with FLOODING. It takes husbands
longer to recover physiologically from flooding.
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